The pains of separation and child arrangements
The pains of separation and child arrangements have been starkly described in the court case detailed below, according to Cheshire family solicitors Stonehewer Moss. The case involved a dispute after divorce about “contact” between a child and her father. Unfortunately the court found no option after exhaustive efforts by experts and the judiciary but to change the home arrangements of the child from living with her mother to her father. The mother is reported to have had a desire to control, an attitude many family solicitors will recognise in child arrangements disputes and sadly here the inability to come to terms with the emotional needs of the child by one parent against the other, presumably following an unhappy separation, resulted in loss of care of the child. Being in an emotional state make the objectivity required to see through a working arrangement after you part almost impossible to achieve alone. Child law is not often complex but the emotional matrix of the family dynamic after separation sometimes benefits from having an experienced family solicitor on your side to negotiate an agreement before you paint yourself into a corner and lose that you cherished the most, possibly. The case makes for difficult but striking information to all parents who may become inclined to game play akin to warfare that is now being labelled parental alienation. After 25 years working in child cases the solicitor at Stonehewer Moss believes fear and distrust of the other parent and perhaps the possibility of loss of a child to his or her new partner are obstacles in reaching agreement with the other parent that cannot be overcome without assistance, be it from a trusted friend, lawyer, mediator or judge. The parent that will not listen to any of these finds the exhausted judge may realise their worst fears. B (change of residence; parental alienation) [2017] EWFC B24 The pains of separation and child arrangements are separate issues best addressed apart.
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