Ways to arrive at settlements on separation
Ways to arrive at settlements on separation are processes created to help you part on terms that are best for all your family when the way the family exists has changed, according to Cheshire family solicitors Stonehewer Moss. In the modern world a Cheshire family might not be a married couple with two children and the way your family was defined before the separation was as individual as the couple; you were creators of your world an possibly your children as well. When your modern world breaks up; your individuality remains but your family definition has to be re-caste. Divorce is a relatively recent thing for the mass of people in Cheshire but today divorce may seem outmoded at the point of separation; you may have lived together or simply have become disillusioned with marriage and see no benefit in a divorce permitting you to have another go at it. Before you embark on a costly and destructive court case in divorce or civil courts for those who did not marry, think about Ways to arrive at settlements on separation that are as conscious of your individuality as you both thought you were when you started your family relationship. Stonehewer Moss suggest the following options to resolve legal issues that need to be addressed when you part:-
- If you are not both emotional wrecks and can sit down and talk to each other, do it and agree what you want to talk about first (what is important) and if you agree enough agree to instruct a solicitor to draft the necessary documents. You must ensure what you agree will stick;
- If a bit of guidance or support is needed, see a well qualified solicitor purely to discuss options first. You do not want to know what you will get; if you want to ask were you stand, you may really be asking how much damage can I cause my ex and consequently to the family you had. The solicitor can set out the following options and help progress your preferred method;
- Collaborate. Nothing to do with the Second World War; a round table option with lawyers for both of you who are trained to seek solutions under an agreement not to use the nuclear option of court. The lawyers buy into the process with the parting couple, agreeing not to use the discussion to take away information to build a court case. The couple need to find other lawyers if they fail to agree. The Resolution website gives more information;
- Mediation. Usually face to face without your lawyers in the room, a mediator gathers the necessary information and offers the space you need to discus settlement. It is as good as the couple want to make it and can be seen as a necessary step to get to court by some. The quality of mediators varies and you are not obliged to use the first mediator you see. Resolution supplies details of local mediators. if you agree, a formal settlement should be drafted.
- If your ex does not use a collaborative solicitor, suggest round table meetings instead of re-inventing the wheel by drafting the documents the court will ask for again if you do not match his or her written offer made after months and large bills have gone by. Ask your solicitor for a fixed fee and politely decline, preferring mediation, if they insist on drafting financial statements, making disclosure and generally behaving like distant gods intervening in the drama of your impending divorce.
Ways to arrive at settlements on separation are created by you; try not to make a monster. For advice negotiation and separation in family law matters please call 01606 872200 e mail firstname.lastname@example.org visit www.stonehewermoss.co.uk
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