Sorting out family breakdown over the Christmas holiday
Sorting out family breakdown over the Christmas holiday can be difficult according to Cheshire divorce solicitors Stonehewer Moss, as we are holed up at home with no work exit for a week or two, with high expectations and sometimes frustrated hopes, things can come to a head just when all the advice you need is unavailable because your local divorce lawyer is similarly engaged with his nearest and dearest and the office is closed until January. Fear not; this blog gives some tips to help a troubled couple cope until the New Year, whether just to get you to the first appointment with a good solicitor or maybe even to permit a respite between you. Sorting out family breakdown over the Christmas holiday needs a bit of perspective, a sense of space and a positive attitude at a time that is supposed to be about peace and goodwill. These are our tips to survive the season:-
- Sorting out family breakdown over the Christmas holiday is too ambitious. You cannot sort out the mess of a broken marriage at this of all times in the duration of this enforced holiday. If you agree the marriage is over, agree to take the time it will need to deal with your family issues respectfully and each of you agree to keep it between you ( keep off social media and just seek support from your relations, not interference). If you are not agreed the marriage is over, think again; it is and fighting against it will only increase the stress on you and the family. If there is a change of heart, great, but getting upset rather than giving it time now is likely to be counterproductive;
- Agree you are not going to demonise each other or your respective in laws. You are just human beings and the temptation to make your once beloved all the evil in the world will not help. See a solicitor that makes the right noises in this regard and run like hell from any that want to be your friend and label your ex as the devil incarnate. In 12 months time a destroyed relationship will have a high price, particularly for the children;
- If nobody knows a good solicitor that treats people respectfully, try the Resolution search engine on their web site but be careful. Meet them and decide for yourself. Most solicitors will help you assess your situation in January without initial obligation;
- Visit the Cafcass website for advice about children in separation. “Children in the middle “also have a booklet for teenagers that you can access from their site. Cafcass have the parenting plan pdf on their site and with some common sense the two of you should at least put the children in the best position they can be if their parents are to split. Timing is crucial. Do you need to vent emotions during the holidays in front of the children? Go for a walk or if absolutely necessary go and stay somewhere else and agree arrangements to see the children until you can get advice.
- Try to look after your health. Keep the booze under control. See your doctor if physically unwell or having suicidal ideation. It can be resolved. Try to do something you enjoy. Separation is often the impetus for new interests. Chanel your energy constructively, the problems you have can be addressed. If the two of you are ultra sensible and agree everything, that is great but if you cannot, don`t force it now. Next year is all the time you need to re-structure the family in a way that minimises harm.
Best wishes for Christmas. If you need advice negotiation help or representation please call 01606 872200 e mail firstname.lastname@example.org visit www.stonehewermoss.co.uk Sorting out family breakdown over the Christmas holiday just needs a bit of faith hope and charity, though solicitors bills can be less than you think.
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