How to have Fifty Shades of Divorce – Free Book
Cheshire solicitors Stonehewer Moss are enthusiastic about taking a positive approach to divorce settlement, as trending with the latest American concept for separating couples called “conscious uncoupling”. They will give a free copy of “Conscious Uncoupling” by Katherine Woodward Thomas to new clients who enter a participation agreement, within a collaborative case under their fixed fee arrangements and crucially agree to share their copy of the book with their ex during the collaborative process.
The ideas behind conscious uncoupling are outlined in a recent Telegraph posting here: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/divorce/11875306/Conscious-Uncoupling.html and involves a transformation of thought process, consciously, when faced by the sadness of separation, to take a human approach in order not to damage those involved out of natural feelings of vengefulness that may hijack even the sanest individual faced with a split up.
Michael Brennan, the family law solicitor at Stonehewer Moss, when reading the article about Katherine`s book mentioned above, was struck by the synthesis that could be achieved between the mindset it advocates to lessen the damage caused to a family by separation and the collaborative law approach he has practiced and preached for since being trained in 2006 by Resolution, the national family lawyers association that promotes amicable divorce, with whom he is accredited as a specialist in finance and child arrangements cases. If clients will take the step to resolve their issues by collaborative meetings, as described on the Resolution website, with him, he will be only too happy to give his client a copy of “Conscious Uncoupling” to share with his or her ex as they move through the process of their separation together, but to be apart on better terms.
That synthesis of approach Michael noticed is also well represented in another recent book, “The Chimp Paradox” by Steve Peters, the successful psychologist with the British cycling team. We all have two basic mind systems that Steve imagines as the chimp and the human. The chimp is fast and aggressive, very defensive and can run away with your thoughts. In a divorce you could quickly let the chimp box you in a corner. The human is slower, methodical and seeks a solution. Within a chapter about communication, Steve writes, “The Human doesn`t work in black or white but typically works with shades of grey. The Human accepts that it may be wrong or there may be a different explanation…therefore, the Human looks outside itself to other people or the law, to discover what is correct, factual and acceptable”. To discover the correct law for your family re-alignment and to seek your shades of grey divorce, contact Michael Brennan via Stonehewer Moss website.