Hope or despair in divorce
Hope or despair in divorce can be the outcome for any individual faced with separation in Cheshire according to Northwich solicitors Stonehewer Moss because life, as an old rocker once sang, is what you make it. The writer published a blog a few weeks ago about hope as the subject of a divorce settlement as opposed to frustration at the outcome of a divorce settlement and develops that theme here after attending a training course about assertiveness, which brought home to him that ethical behaviour and the will to power are hard to reconcile in all walks of life. Faced with separation you have to decide how to react. A dog the writer owned as a boy really liked cats until one scratched him on the nose and then they became his enemy. The training course dwelled a bit on those drivers that pass us all to reach the front of the traffic cones while rest of us wait. There seems to be an attitude among many that this conduct is being “smart” and the rest are misguided. The writer usually thinks there goes a future client. It is selfish conduct however you justify it to yourself. When faced with separation you can behave like the writers old dog and go to war, assume you are special and normal rules do not apply to you or accept there is a process and you will remain your lovely self at the end of it. Being assertive when faced with divorce means knowing what is important to you and your family and charting a course through the process that permits you to keep true to yourself. Damaging what makes you happy with yourself for the sake of feeling better now about harming your ex is despair; have hope and choose a solicitor that does not press buttons (yours or those of your ex) could help achieve a better outcome. Time is a great healer and sitting in the traffic jam is an opportunity to learn something new untroubled by other demands on you. Think about the bigger picture of your future life rather than making the break up of now a defining moment. That other driver is on a different journey., not a better one.
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