Domestic violence or jokes and charm
Domestic violence or jokes and charm may be a dilemma many people in relationships have to address according to Cheshire divorce solicitors Stonehewer Moss, who believe it is no coincidence that the there is a blurring of the two characterisations as in the experience of their family solicitor charm and humour are often a mask for coercive behaviour that today is acknowledged to be domestic violence. Although not a relationship based abuse, the recent story about the football manager recorded as telling a woman reporter she could be slapped even though a woman highlights the confusion such conduct might create in the minds of the target of controlling behaviour. In no way is it suggested by this blog that this non relationship instance after a match was such inappropriate behaviour if not so intended but it serves to show how words can be received in a way that is deniable if uttered in private, so that charm is brought in to play by the controlling person after the event and the “victim” will be then unsure they have taken the conduct correctly. The issue is half addressed if acknowledged as causing confused feelings by the target of the words or conduct. It is suggested you may if unsure and unhappy at where you find yourself in the relationship, seek the opinion of a solicitor experienced in family law disputes or support services if you do not want to go to law immediately. If you have felt, out of character, your mental health decline when feeling confused by the conduct of your partner, help from a solicitor or support worker is perhaps best for you moving forward. It is in our experience standard tactics for a perpetrator of domestic violence to pigeon hole his or her partner as mentally unwell or made to feel entirely dependant on that person, even to the extent of his “helpfully” suggesting he take you to see the doctor. The problem may be elsewhere than yourself. In Cheshire there is an excellent support service funded by Cheshire West council called Cheshire West and Chester Domestic Abuse Partnership (CWACDAP) tel 01606 351 375
Family solicitors can help with injunctions but can be costly. Legal aid from a contracted supplier is still available. Sometimes a letter is enough to break the control you experience and help you move forward. Where the risk is significant, the police are trained and have extensive powers about domestic violence.Domestic violence or jokes and charm is not a riddle you have to work out alone.
For advice negotiation or representation in family law matters please call 01606 872200 or e mail info@piplaw.co.uk or visit www.stonehewermoss.co.uk
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